disillawsioned.

Posted bycasey coombsPosted inToo lazy to label.

Growing up: Lawyers and doctors are rich!

Pre-Law School: (stars in my eyes) In three years my husband is going to be smart and rich!

Second year of law school: Huh, well this has to be worth it eventually right?

Four months away from graduation from Law School: Meh.

I admit to being just as disillusioned about law school and the prospects of my husband being an attorney as some people are about marriage being a romantic fun ride of never ending happiness. (P.S. If you’re new here, I don’t love newlyweds. They induce my gag reflex hardcore.)

Here we are, four months away from graduation and while three years ago I thought I’d be picking between a Cadillac or a Lexus, at this point I’m left deciding between Ramen or Mac & Cheese for dinner.

I don’t regret Cody going to law school. He enjoys it and he’s damn good at it.

We’re still married. We still like each other. We’re actually never around each other enough to get sick of each other.

My illusions about a rich lawyer husband are smashed.

We have so much else to look forward to besides fast cars and diamond shoes. Like massive graduate school debt and a whole lifetime (well, 30 years) to pay it off. See that? How I made that a glass half full thing?

Law school has really helped my cynicism.

So hit me, let’s be optimistic about those pessimistic things in our lives.

Let me give you another example,

Cody’s gone at school all the time, but I never have to share the TV.

Your turn.

64 thoughts on “disillawsioned.”

  1. Oh, Lord, newlyweds make me want to claw my eyes out while running as fast as I can in the opposite direction. What’s with the touching? And the kissing? And the pet names? GAG.

    Hm. The bus ride to school makes me want to puke what with the smells and the overactive heating system, but at least I save money on gas.

    Marins last blog post..The Appeal of Thin

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  2. You see, I had to go through law school with a husband and children as well. It sucked. And now we have heavy student loans to pay back…and hubby’s having trouble working due to some mental health issues…so we’re pretty much screwed.

    I knew I should have gone to medical school and left him home with the kids.

    Oh, well, at least we still have Paris. Wait, no, we don’t. crap.

    Rheas last blog post..Ghost Mermaids want to Possess Your Soul

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  3. So my uterus isn’t cooperating and refuses to allow another cute little one in. But I’ve lost 18 lbs in the last 3 months, and I look good in the new clothes I just got for Christmas!

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  4. ummm.. lmao. thank you very much you stinker 😉
    I’m going to give you the biggest hug at BlissDom.

    Let’s see.

    My dog eating my husband’s socks means less laundry for me, right? right.

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  5. The economy blows and has left me with few freelance jobs, but at least I don’t have to get dressed everyday.

    Newlyweds – gag. When I was first married, a church leader came up to me and expressed concern that my husband and I weren’t affectionate enough in public. “Other couples hold hands and kiss and cuddle during church. You guys don’t do a thing.” Five years later and I’m still annoyed he thought this meant a good marriage.

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  6. I’m unemployed because I moved somewhere after finishing up school, and now I’m disgustingly broke and don’t have money to pay off the loans.
    But at least I get to spend all day at home with the boyfriend? (Who’s getting sick of me already!)

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  7. My husband is a chef. Four years ago, I thought “Oh! You need to go back to school!” and when he said he wanted to be a chef, I was all “money! glory! fun!” and now $36,000 later (for two years of schooling) he’s working 13 hours a day. He should have gone to school to be a doctor!

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  11. Um, I took a semester off from school to get ahold of my bipolar, which meant leaving my apartment in Manhattan and my boyfriend in Brooklyn to go live for free in Denver…So now we get to have dramatic airport scenes just like the ones in Love Actually? That’s a perk, right? And I get to snowboard a lot more.

    Also, Amelia, can I just say how hysterical I think it is that it somehow became a problem that you weren’t making out in church. Wow.

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  12. Yeah, wait till you start paying the loans. We just started. And it’s awesome, because we were looking for a place to put an extra $1,100/month. Even better no one will consolidate because of the economy. Hip hip hooray!

    Seriously though, my husband is SO happy being a lawyer and that is totally worth it.

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  13. Let me help you out. I am an accountant and we are in the middle of doing quarterly payroll taxes. I have 3 clients who are lawyers. They pay, on average, $100,000 a year, just on payroll taxes. And who are their employees? Themselves and their wives. Hang in there. I have figured out I am in the wrong business!

    Camilles last blog post..I’m tired

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  14. My husband is working 2 jobs at once (for the same company), so he doesn’t get home until late and then gets online to work some more after the kids go to bed. But, the new job means he has to go to Australia 3 times this year – and that he should have enough frequent flyer miles for me fly in Business class for free on his 3rd trip!

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  16. My husband is in school to be a chiropractor (4 year program!)and I feel your pain on the never seeing him and massive student loans.

    I get free adjustments even if they are done by students!

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  17. Wait, but I’m a lawyer who makes lots of money!

    Oh, I don’t practice law. That’s right.

    My mother always tries to tell me that I should practice law instead of doing what I do. I try to explain to her that the median salary for a lawyer out of law school who does NOT work for a big firm is in the $55-70K range, and she just won’t believe it.

    I have friends who have been out for eight years who are still making $35K.

    Cody’ll find a good job, though. Just think litigation instead of transactional. And you’ll have your Lexus soon enough.

    Unless you really want that second kid!

    Avitables last blog post..People are greedy, obnoxious, and retarded

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  22. I secretly love that I get the TV, laptop (internet without judging my online friends), and kitchen to myself when my husband is at class.

    Although, today when I wrote a check to the university with so many numbers I had to try three times to fit it on the check, I was a little sad.

    And he still has his PhD to get.

    Oy.

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  23. Boyfriend & I have been apart for 3 weeks (me in the states, him not = no phone calls and very few emails), except a quick day and 1/2 in between for New Years…

    BUT…
    1. I got a TON of organizing & cleaning done at home that wouldn’t have happened with him here.
    2. I had to work last weekend, but didn’t have to miss out on time with him to do so.
    2. I now speak BRAZILIAN (thanks to you, Casey!)…and as of tomorrow, he will too, because he landed safely back on American soil today and I will be seeing him in T-4 hours 🙂 (squeeeeeee!!!)

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  27. My husband is also gone at school all day and I don’t have to share the remote either.

    I just started working graveyards. Noah’s take on it: He misses having someone else in bed with him but LOVES that he gets to sleep diagonally now. I figure, I didn’t sleep anyway, so why not just work?

    Mrs. Wilsons last blog post..It’s all in my head

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  28. I have to travel a lot for work, which sometimes sucks when I have to come home to a messy house, kids who have lived on tater tots and chicken nuggets and a pile of laundry taller than my 5 year old. But then again, I get to eat meals with grown ups and not have to cut someone’s meat.

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  30. Ahem. Am kind of a newlywed. Am trying not to be offended. Though we aren’t lovey dovey, so I’d like to think you wouldn’t find us nauseating.

    I have so much credit card debt I can hardly make my minimum payments, which is not great. But it actually worked to my advantage when the woman who stole my wallet (the day after Christmas) decided to take out a credit card in my name, and was denied.

    Not because the block on my social security card had gone through, but because I am really REALLY really in debt.

    Overflowing Brains last blog post..An Open Letter to my Identity Thief

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  31. It’s been about 2 1/2 months since my husband found out he passed the bar exam, and he’s still looking for a lawyer job. The funny thing is, most entry-level attorney positions earn LESS (we’re talking $10K-20K less) than his current data analyst position with just a Bachelor’s degree in Computer Science.

    On the bright side, with his computer job, he can work from home a couple days a week… which saves us about $50/month in gas money. Which is just going towards paying back his loans anyway, but oh well.

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  34. So I though I would be married with a couple of kids by now, but instead I get to party until 3 am and crash at friends place over the weekend, without having to notify anyone about my whereabouts. And if in the mood I can make out with random guy at the bar. Fun to be me huh? How’s that for silver lining?

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  36. amen to that progression. my husband’s a new doctor. I remember pre-med school, med school, residency…and now what?? will we ever be out of debt…ever?

    at least our healthcare costs are usually “comp-ed”

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  38. Wow. I have nothing to say. Not that my life is any better than anyone else’s who has posted but it feels a little too “Maury Povich” in here for me.
    Happiness is…la la la la la…

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  43. I suppose this is a bad time to mention that the average annual salary for Indiana attorneys is in the mid 30s?

    So, for every $100K+ attorney out there living the high life, there another slogging away as a < $20K hive worker.

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  45. One of my brothers is an attorney. He’s very good at it but it hasn’t made him rich…yet. I hate to say it but the long hours away from home will continue after law school as well. And I guess it’s quite common for the cynicism to be shared among the family, like my sis-in-law learned.

    Wait…I was supposed to cheer you up! At least you and Cody aren’t newlyweds.

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  48. Aw, Casey, welcome to the lawyer’s wives club. I’m still waiting for my BMW too. As for the bright side?

    Private sector legal jobs are mostly recession proof. Small businesses, especially, get much more litigious when every dollar counts.

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  50. My 17 month old daughter is getting over herpangina (like hand/foot/mouth virus but just the mouth). She didn’t sleep for more than 1 hour at a time for several days straight and cried inconsolably for three days.

    But hey, I am getting back in training for when my son is born in May! I tried to remember that as I was sleeping on the floor in her room (on my side, like a good pregnant woman).

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