It’s a pretty solid sign of the times when your once thriving little corner of the Internet displays ‘ACCOUNT SUSPENDED’ because you have successfully (albeit accidentally) avoided adding auto-pay to your account for over a year. Since you’re reading this rather than ‘ACCOUNT SUSPENDED’ I’ve clearly accomplished something today. I’m starting out this year 40Continue reading “State of the Human Address.”
Category Archives: marriage
On Why We Don’t Always Wear Our Wedding Rings
Cody once worked with a guy that removed his wedding ring depending on the type of customer he was serving. Cody and I both thought it was pretty smarmy and gross (and we still do) but we didn’t know much about marriage as we were wee babes ourselves. After our own vows and rings wereContinue reading “On Why We Don’t Always Wear Our Wedding Rings”
he never gave up on me.
For the first time in our almost 14 years of marriage I have finally allowed myself to be completely and hopelessly in love with Cody. I’m so in love with him I struggle to find words adequate enough to encompass how I feel about him. When I talk about him I generally end up inContinue reading “he never gave up on me.”
stuff we’re not totally screwing up at the moment.
It kind of changes things when you tell someone you’re close with that you’re leaving your husband. Maybe it doesn’t change things, but it certainly shows you how invested and in what ways a person is invested in you when you tell them a bit about what’s going on. To be fair, no one reallyContinue reading “stuff we’re not totally screwing up at the moment.”
defying the impulse to jump ship.
I wish I could say that after two weeks of feelings and emotions my marriage is suddenly A-OK and that everyone can just move right along because there’s nothing to see here! Just a little blip on the radar of life! But I can’t say that because everything is not A-OK although we are veryContinue reading “defying the impulse to jump ship.”
hurting and healing.
One of the things that has been hardest for me over the past several months is feeling as though I am broken because while I am fiercely loyal to my girls and have an intense unconditional love for them, I don’t have an inspirational quote type of feeling towards motherhood in general. You know theContinue reading “hurting and healing.”
about last night.
I didn’t see that response coming. The confessions, the ‘me too’ and the solidarity. It was humbling, thank you — not only selfishly, but to all of you who left comments of support that other people in similar situations can read and hopefully gain strength from. “This morning I decided to get on a planeContinue reading “about last night.”
when I left.
I left Cody. I left because marriage is a lot harder than it should be and I have spent the last several months mentally checking out from our partnership so as to avoid getting any more hurt by his behavior and actions that seemed so similar to what we experienced back in 2009. I wasContinue reading “when I left.”
cody powered.
“But weren’t you just in LA?” “Wait, now you’re in Texas?” “Hey, didn’t you just get back from a cruise?” “You were in Florida again?” “Didn’t you go to New York last month?” “Are you ever home?” Yes. “You must have lots of family and support nearby to do all of this!” Nope. What IContinue reading “cody powered.”
a dozen years of marriage.
I keep trying to think up some neat and tidy list to sum up the 12 most important events of the last 12 years. The problem is I’m having a hard time putting words to them. Last night as we pulled up to the Ritz Carlton and Cody scoffed at valet parking and veered offContinue reading “a dozen years of marriage.”
making unbreakable - formerly moosh in indy. 